As we approach the Shloshim of those we have lost, we pause to reflect on the enduring lessons of these precious souls.

This week’s Parsha is Vayechi. One might expect it to focus on the lives of Yaakov and Yosef, yet much of the portion speaks about their passing. Why, then, is the Parsha called Vayechi—“and he lived”?

The answer is that when we learn from the great souls who have lost their lives “Al Kiddish Hashem”, they continue to live on through us. Their values, actions, and legacies endure when we carry their lessons forward and commit ourselves to continuing the paths they began.

On the eighth night of Chanukah, Rabbi Ulman shared reflections that can guide us as we move through the next stages of mourning and remembrance. These beautiful people who have left us, also left us with teachings—lessons to carry forward into our lives and our community.

Tanya Tretiak was not Jewish, yet she stood proudly with her husband and with our community. From her, we learn the importance of showing up for one another—even across differences—and of being allies to those who need our support.

Marika Pagani, a tireless volunteer who delivered thousands of meals, reminds us to care for the elderly, the vulnerable, and those who are too often forgotten.

Adam Smith, known for his legendary hospitality, teaches us to open our homes and our hearts, and to make others feel truly welcome.

Peter Marzo-Megger, a police officer and community leader, inspires us to commit to service, to show up for others, and to give back to the places we call home.

Dan Elka¬yam was killed while joyfully celebrating his Judaism on a beautiful day. His life urges us not to postpone what matters, but to live with meaning now—not someday in the future.

Matilda, a beautiful and spirited ten-year-old who brought light wherever she went, reminds us to bring smiles and pure goodness into the lives of those around us.

Boris Gurman, who bravely confronted and tackled a gunman to protect others, teaches us to find the courage to speak up and to act when we encounter evil and injustice.

Sophia Gurman showed us how to confront prejudice with principle—responding to hatred with dignity, humanity, and moral strength.

Alex Kelytman, a Holocaust survivor who died shielding his wife, exemplifies placing the safety and dignity of others before our own comfort.

Tiber Weitzen, who greeted children in our synagogue with a smile and a lollipop, reminds us to make our community a place where the next generation feels safe, happy, and loved.

Boris Tettleroid, a devoted provider and gifted musician, teaches us to work hard for our families and to use our talents to bring beauty into the world.

Edith Brotman, a woman of integrity who chose humanity every day, reminds us to let our decisions be guided by conscience, not convenience.

Ruben Morrison, who fought back with courage, determination, and faith, inspires us to stand firm in what we know is right.

Rabbi Yakov Levitan, who chose a life of community service over a lucrative career, teaches us to place meaning before money and purpose before profit.

Rabbi Eli Schlanger treated every human being as precious—whether prisoner or prime minister, billionaire or beggar. What he saw was always a soul deserving of love. Let us try, each in our own way, to see people as he did.

May their memories be a blessing and may the lessons they left us guide our actions, our values, and our future.