Strong Like a Staff, Flexible Like a Journey

Should I be strong and unwavering, or open and flexible?

At first glance, these seem like opposite approaches to life. Are we meant to stand firm on our principles, or should we be adaptable and willing to change?

The Torah’s answer is: both.

The names of the Torah portions are never accidental; they capture the essence of the message contained within them. Remarkably, these two names represent two seemingly opposite ideas.

Matot means “tribes,” but the word mateh also means a staff, a strong, solid piece of wood. It symbolises firmness, stability, conviction, and strength. A staff does not bend easily. It represents someone who is deeply rooted in values and principles, someone who stands strong even when challenged.

Masei, on the other hand, means “journeys.” A journey is all about movement. It means leaving one place for another, adapting to new circumstances, and refusing to remain stuck. It represents flexibility, growth, openness, and the willingness to move beyond where we are today.

Why are these two parshiyot joined together?

Because the Torah teaches us in life, we need both.

Some people possess the qualities of Matot (the staff). They have unwavering convictions. They know what they believe, they remain loyal to their values, and they refuse to compromise on what is right. Yet there is a danger. Strength can become rigidity. Conviction can become stubbornness. When life calls for patience, compassion, or flexibility, they may find it difficult to bend.

Others naturally embody Masei. They are kind, accommodating, and easy-going. They adapt well to change and are tolerant of others. But flexibility without firm principles can become instability. A person who is always changing may eventually lose sight of the values that should never change.

The Torah teaches that we need both.

Our relationship with Hashem and our commitment to Torah and mitzvot must be like a mateh, firm, steady, and deeply rooted. Eternal values are not determined by popular opinion or changing trends. They are our anchor, giving us direction and purpose throughout life’s challenges.

At the same time, our dealings with other people should reflect the spirit of Masei. We must be flexible, patient, and understanding. We should be willing to interrupt our schedule to help someone in need, to listen when someone needs our time, and to step outside our comfort zone when another person requires our support.

The message this week is to like both Matot and Masei, strong in principle, yet gentle in implementation and in our communication. Unwavering in faith, yet flexible in kindness.

Shabbat Shalom

Rabbi Zalman & Esty